1. Being overly reliant on one another.
Allow this article to serve as a refresher. You and your special someone couldn’t get enough of each other in the early days of your relationship, right? You go out to see a movie, talk on the phone for hours, text and chat, take a slew of couple selfies, and fantasize about conquering the world together. There were also times when you and your partner were content to simply cuddle up in each other’s arms and spend the rest of the day doing so.
However, there are days when you feel like you have too much of each other, to the point where you become overly reliant on each other’s approval to make even the tiniest of decisions, or seeing each other’s faces everywhere. When the relationship’s concept consumes both you and your partner, the relationship becomes unhealthy. As a result, one of you begins to look for reasons to break up with the other, such as spending time with friends, pursuing other interests, or, worst of all, meeting new people.
You can, however, prevent this from happening. And in order to do so, you two must come to appreciate the true value of respecting each other’s uniqueness. It’s because, even if you choose to live together, you’re still living separate lives. You should then acknowledge that your partner has a life of his or her own, with his or her own set of friends, family members, beliefs, and aspirations. At the same time, you should recognize that you have a life outside of the relationship. The more this is established on both of your understanding, the less likely it is that your relationship will fail, simply because you respect each other.
2. You and your partner don’t communicate.
When two people fall in love, they do everything they can to protect each other. And, from time to time, they keep some painful truths hidden from each other in order to avoid hurting each other. And you know what? Hiding things—or, more accurately, failing to communicate—is a major reason why most relationships fail.
Not communicating simply means not talking to each other. It’s more about not being truthful about what you want to say.
Yes, telling your partner the truth can be difficult, especially when you know it will hurt him or her. But, instead of sugarcoating the issues you both know you need to resolve, wouldn’t it be better if you were honest? After all, the truth always frees you from emotional baggage your relationship doesn’t deserve.
3. You’re not paying attention.
Listening to each other’s ideas without being judgmental is also part of communicating. Your significant other may simply want you to listen to what he or she is saying without having to express your own opinion.
Patience is required when listening because you may not always agree with your partner’s point of view. You must realize that venting is a way for some people to put their emotions aside in order to listen to reason and make a good decision. Yes, you must be able to listen in order to maintain a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
4. You’re not living up to one another’s expectations.
You and your partner decided to start a relationship because you both wanted to. It’s a decision. But, now that you’re in a relationship, have you considered what you want to do with it?
Your partner may be considering a long-term relationship, while you are simply enjoying the moment. You may be planning to marry and start a family in the next five years, but your partner wants to focus on making memories as a couple first. Most of the time, however, you expect more from your partner and are angry and frustrated when they deliver less.
You know this shouldn’t be the case, and it’s time to reconsider why you got into this relationship in the first place. You accept your partner’s capabilities and limitations by agreeing to be together, even if they do not meet your expectations. It’s because that’s what you fell in love with about them in the first place, and it’s the main reason you decided to be in a relationship with them.
It’s a two-way street when it comes to commitment. You, like your partner, give and take. You can’t always expect to be given to, and you can’t always expect to be given to. But if there’s one thing you can do for each other, it’s to inspire each other to dream, believe, and overcome whatever obstacles come your way.
5. You do not support each other’s personal goals.
Admit it: you disagree with the majority of your partner’s life decisions. These include fashion preferences, dream jobs, and even where to live, in addition to other more serious decisions. However, because you are in a relationship, you may want to adjust and begin supporting each other’s individual goals.
Being supportive entails showing maximum tolerance for your partner’s decisions and not interfering with his or her ability to achieve the goal. You can’t always have your way because your partner has a life to live as well. You may not realize it, but his or her decisions benefit you in the long run.
6. It’s extremely difficult for you to give complete trust.
Do you easily become enraged when your partner fails to return home on time? Do you feel betrayed when he or she goes out with friends without first informing you, or when they make rash decisions without consulting you? If you frequently feel this way, it’s a sign that you and your partner are having trust issues.
You might want to sit down and talk about it. It’s not a bad idea to share your perspective on the situation and why you’re having trust issues with him or her. While he or she may not agree at first, it is critical that you get your message across and that they understand your point of view. If your partner truly loves you, he or she will gladly assist you in establishing a trusting relationship.
7. You Have a Proclivity to Forget About Your Limits.
When you’re in a relationship, you have certain limitations. Of course, you and your partner already share a private yet shared space, and you both must respect not only each other’s individuality but also your shared commitment.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s crucial to recognize when you can entertain people who want more than just friendship. Yes, you should avoid flirting with people, and your partner should as well. Sure, there are times when you just have to be friendly with them, but if you want to avoid suspicion and unnecessary jealousy, you should keep your distance from them as soon as possible.