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Disadvantages Of Not Having A Child

The Disadvantages Of Not Having A Child

There are various disadvantages to not having a child, including emotional consequences.

Perhaps the most apparent disadvantage of being an only child is the feeling of loneliness. Not having a sibling to play with regularly, or who they are able to share their thoughts and memories with, can be difficult. There are many advantages and disadvantages to being an only child. However, how each child turns out really depends on how the child has been brought up, among other factors.

Of course parenting comes with some disadvantages. However, when you read through the benefits below and if you are a parent you’ll quickly realize that the benefits outweigh the disadvantages. there really are disadvantages in being the only child… things would be much easier if you have siblings… when you’re an only child, there’s hardly an option for yourself and most decision couldn’t be self-serving…. personally, from my experience, there are decisions in life that you just have to consider who’s going to be left behind… you wanted to have a career advancement at some place but couldn’t pursue it due to the fact that there’s nobody left to take care of the family, the properties etc… when financial problem arises, there’s no one else to rely on but only you… you can’t mess up your life because the family is dependent on you and you certainly can’t bring shame to the family knowing that they expect so much from you… as far as the “little emperor” syndrome, maybe in a way it can be looked at in a positive manner… due to that, a person can attain what he wants in life due to having the confidence that you get what you want (but that is of course if the person has an optimistic outlook in life).

This study examines the perceptions of childlessness reported by 287 childless respondents aged 55 and over who were part of a larger study (n – 678) on aging and social support. Sixty-seven per cent (n = 193) report advantages to childlessness and 64 per cent (n = 185) report disadvantages. Qualitative data show that key perceived advantages are fewer worries or problems, financial benefits, greater freedom, and career flexibility. The major disadvantages are lack of companionship/being alone/loneliness, lack of support and care when older, and missing the experience of parenthood. Bivariate and multivariate analyses of the effects that gender, marital status, age, and childless status (childless by choice or by circumstance) have on the perceived advantages and disadvantages of having no children show that there is variability in perceived advantages only. When we compare specific perceived advantages and disadvantages to related experience, only some perceived benefits (financial advantage) are associated with actual experience. Findings are discussed in the context of actually experiencing costs and benefits versus sharing widely-held beliefs about childlessness.

Any life choice has its positives and negatives, and parenting versus not-parenting is no different. Let’s examine three advantages and three disadvantages of each option. Any life choice has its positives and negatives, and parenting versus not-parenting is no different. Let’s examine three advantages and three disadvantages of each option.

Approximately 70-80 million couples world wide are currently infertile (Bos et al., 1995; Boivin et al., 2007) and it can be estimated that tens of millions of couples are primary infertile or childless. For most people, having children is immensely important; not being able to have children is a major life problem. There is also a large group of women and men, who have children, possibly form a previous relationship, who desperately wants to have another child. A considerable body of research in Western countries has shown that involuntary childlessness has strong psychological consequences (see for reviews: Greil, 1997; Brokvich and Fisher, 1998). Most of the studies carried out in this domain are quantatitative and some are qualitative. Both kind of studies, point in the same direction: there are various psychological and psychosomatic effects, and especially women are affected. The most frequently mentioned effects are distress, raised depression and anxiety levels, lowered self-esteem, feelings of blame and guilt, somatic complaints, and reduced sexual interest. For a small minority of women and men in the Western world these effects are at a clinical level or can be considered extremely serious (Greil, 1997).

Having more children costs more money, making it harder to save for college. Self-focus is uncomfortable for many people, and frankly, having a child immediately puts the emphasis on this dependent being. Having a child means that you’ll have at least 18 years of endless focus on the needs of another being.

Self-focus is uncomfortable for many people, and frankly, having a child immediately puts the emphasis on this dependent being. Having a child means that you’ll have at least 18 years of endless focus on the needs of another being. Having a child means taking on a whole new load of responsibility that lasts a lifetime. You will have to work harder, make sacrifices, change routines, learn a lot along the way, and lean on your support system.

Children provide a sense of purpose and gratification in life, which can be difficult to find elsewhere.

Here’s a reason: having children makes you a better person. Most people would never learn the importance of self-sacrifice and devotion to the needs of others without having children. Children also bind communities together, giving parents a communal incentive to stand against corrosive influences like crime and for amenities like parks and recreational venues.

Children make people better humans. It is very sad that so many people think that having children is pointless… Make me sad for children growing up around this generation of negative millenials who think only of their own autonomy, and not what they can ever do for another. The gift of parenthood, whether planned or unplanned by the way, is one of the few blessings in life that shows us what an amazing love you can have for someone who is completely dependent upon you. Kind of like how we are completely dependent on God, the Father.

Children also create a commitment to the future. I want the world to be a better place for my kids, for their kids, and so on. It’s not some abstraction to hope for a better world…it is an imperative to fight for their future. The idea of bringing another human into the world and the joy of seeing that person go through life is another powerful reason why couples want to have a child. Parents want to see their child grow up and become a productive member of society.

One more reason for having kids is that people want to control someone fully.Want to mould a life.Children give then feeling that they are god and can uphold a life.But this all goes for 7-8 years atmost.so after the time they start questioning…. The idea of being around babies and young children might disgust some people but others love the notion of raising a little one from birth into adulthood. These people may want to relive the silly and fun parts of their childhood with their child.

While it may seem obvious to some, having a child completely changes your life, and it gives new meaning to your life. After having a child you become responsible for their life and because of that, your existence takes on a whole new meaning. Many people love the idea of getting to create and raise a child, one that they can share their love with. This concept is appealing because you get to determine how your child will turn out and what values they will have. Couples can find that type of experience exciting and gratifying.

Children are not only funny, they are beautiful. Even ugly ones are thought beautiful by their parents. Simply surrounding yourself with creatures so visually pleasing makes every day an aesthetic delight. Aside from that… People have children because it’s the experience they want to have. Very simple. There are a million specific reasons to have kids just as there are a million reasons not too. Why do we have to boil it down to one… Or a list of 10? There’s personal growth to be had, the same as starting a business, or a Ying a sport, or…. choosing not to have kids.

In my opinion having a children is useless. Those who experience social pressure, be stronger and don’t pay attention to their words. Because it’s you who will be spending money, time and experiencing stress all the time. Just imagine. You are right now 25-30 years old. How old would you be when your child will become an independent adult? 45-50 years old. Don’t you have your own dreams to fulfill? Why do you need to spend 2 decades to raise a child and in the end experience that your life was unsuccessful?

A lack of children also leaves a void in the lives of others, which can be challenging to fill.

As hard as it might be to deal with the regret of not having children, it’s important to realize that you still have a lot to offer the world even without children. After all, giving life to someone is about more than just giving birth. Sometimes people regret not having children because they believe that having a child would somehow make them feel complete. But, it’s important to let go of this idea of completeness. Believing that a child will make you or your life feel complete is not a healthy expectation. You should never look to another human being to make you feel whole.

For some people having children is solely about feeding their own selfish adult need. I was sent far away to boarding school at age 7, which for many rich parent kids is juvenile jail for rich absentee parents. The kicker was my parents business went sour, were personally bankrupt by the time I was 14 and I had to be self-sufficient from there-on in. To survive in my adult years, I had to protect myself by going for a superficial, low-contact relationship with my childhood absentee parents but comically still get monthly reminders that I have a “duty” to fulfill to my parents in their retirement years and bend over to their ridiculous demands. Sad really!

Responding to the comment: Now why do people go and have children if they are not willing to care for them and nurture them in the way that they need from their parents? There is no one answer. Here is mine. My parents had their children in the 1950s. In this era many people got married and had children because this was simply what was expected. My sister died in an accident when she was five and I was 18 months. My parents never recovered. They had a replacement child, my brother. They could not invest emotionally in their children because they were perpetually grieving. My father was bipolar and alcoholic. My mother was depressive and alcoholic. My uncles were alcoholic and didn’t like me or my brother because we were extensions of my father. Now, with all due respect, does this answer your question?

Nobody came into this world with an instruction booklet, telling their parents how to best bring up their little darling. It is sad to note that childhood emotional neglect happens because of the lack of parental emotional skills. Consequently, CEN can and does go through each generation in a family as a silent shadow as any parent cannot teach what they don’t know. Thus this poisonous legacy keeps being gifted over time. Having children is easy; parenting them so that they grow to be happy and healthy individuals is not. We may need to challenge our ideas about parenting and learn about it before having children. Just because you can doesn’t mean one should. We may need to be even more radical. Parenting classes in school for teenagers, more financial support for the nuclear family, and more flexible working for parents.

Most of these people have children because they believe that may overcome their own obstacles of emotional neglect through the child, thus perpetuating the problem. In addition, I believe these people want the child to fulfill their unfulfilled legacy through having children. Lastly, I think the culture promotes the idea that “everyone” should have children when in reality not everyone should, however because these people are themselves emotionally neglected and have an underdevelopment idea of maturity they fall into the peer pressure. Another good read about this is “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”. Some other topics to broaden the issue are Codependencies and Enmeshment of parents

Absent parents can be removed from a child’s life for a variety of reasons, such as death, illness, divorce, working long hours, or frequent travel for work. Children of absent parents end up raising themselves to a large extent, and if they are the oldest child may also raise their younger siblings. These children tend to be overly responsible, which may carry over to adult life. As children, they seem like little adults, overburdened with worry about their families.

Sadly, I don’t think parents imagine that the children that they want to have will have emotional lives of their own. Especially these days, i see young couples eager to have children and share pictures of them online, without regard for what needs their child is actually going to have down the line. No one will be willingly sharing their children’s misbehavior and failure in adulthood 20 years down the line. That tells me that the parents of today really aren’t prepared to have children.

 

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