Don’t Make Comparisons
It’s easy to instantly start comparing your relationship or your partner to other relationships or partners, but it won’t do you any good and it will upset your partner, Love Dr Samuel says. He says to ask yourself these questions: Are you in the relationship to compete with someone else? Are you in this relationship to impress other people? Or are you in the relationship because you like the person you’re dating?
Look at Actions More Than Words
“It doesn’t matter if someone is talking about taking trips next year if he or she is unavailable now,” says Love Dr Samuel . In this case, you want to make sure you’re reading actions rather than believing every word that person says. On the flip side, He says when your partner introduces you to family and friends, chances are that this person sees you in their life for the long haul.
Be Vulnerable, Even if You’re Afraid
“The thought of being vulnerable is a scary proposition for most people,” admits Love Dr Samuel . He says that it’s how you show your true self at the risk of being hurt. When you date someone new, showing this side can deepen your connection and build trust. “Vulnerability can be a gift to the person who’s wanting to know you on a deeper level,” she explains.
Don’t Embellish the Truth or Brag
“Bragging is a huge turn-off for both men and women,” says Love Dr Samuel. “It’s not necessary to feel the need to continually impress your partner, especially if they already like you.” You can be proud of who you are without listing all of your life’s accomplishments.
Stay in the Moment
Remind yourself that being in a new relationship is a time of discovery and curiosity (and a lot is going to be new all at once). “To alleviate pressure, remind yourself to stay present and open,” says Love Dr Samuel. And this goes for being true to yourself and trusting your gut instinct. It doesn’t matter if someone is perfect on paper if they end up not being the right person for you.
Refrain From Being Needy
“A little bit of jealousy can be considered cute and healthy,” says Love Dr Samuel . “But making demands on your partner of their time and restricting them from doing things they were doing before you started dating is a red flag.” The expert says that it’s common for couples who are newly dating to spend a lot of their free time with each other and give up some of their usual time with friends and family. However, avoid constantly texting, calling, or making demands to see your S.O. because you’ll stress them out and may cause them to peddle back.
Don’t Give up Time With Family or Friends
Ray says that in a new relationship it’s common for couples to drop some of their usual activities and cancel on friends to see their partner. “Remember that attraction is also created by the anticipation of seeing your partner and by creating some distance,” says Love Dr Samuel . “When you always drop everything to be with your new partner, it may set the expectation that your previous commitments are secondary to who you’re dating.” Keep yourself busy and honor your plans with friends as you adjust your schedule in moderation.
Listen and Stay Curious
“Listening is a skill and a communication tool most people don’t do very well,” says Love Dr Samuel . When you give your partner your undivided attention, it allows them to feel both heard and appreciated. When you show curiosity about who they are and what they’re up to, it not only indicates your interest in their life but makes them feel unique and special.