If you try to be someone you’re not, you’re gonna make yourself miserable. It’s essentially a form of deception, and the last thing you want to do is be disingenuous. If being yourself means you’re gonna be rude and inconsiderate and have fewer friends, then you can A) accept that and appreciate the people who stick around or B) change parts of your personality that you don’t like by improving your character. Focus less on living up to other people’s expectations and more on living up to your own.
Look in the mirror.
Do you like what you see? If not, change it. And I don’t mean through plastic surgery. I’m saying that if you don’t like the way you look, try changing some of your habits and behaviors. The definition of insanity is changing nothing and expecting things to change.
If you want to lose weight, try portion control. Try healthier alternatives to your diet. Try walking around more and passing up on cars and buses.
And if you do like the way you look, then you’re in a much better place than I am. Embrace yourself.
Advocate for yourself.
Because sometimes, no one else will. If you ask for help, you may find that you’ll receive it. More so than if you never asked for help in the first place. So learn to communicate your needs to the people around you.
Know that you have your own limits. Be firm about them. And tell others who try to toe the line when their behavior is unacceptable. If they’re the right people, they’ll understand and respect your boundaries. I’ve been walked all over in the past, but I’ve learned to prioritize my own sense of well-being.
Self-explanatory. One of the biggest turn-offs is arrogance. It often comes across as projecting insecurities and placing a lot of self-worth in personal achievements or accomplishments. Get over yourself. Don’t let your ego get in the way. (I’m working on this, too.)
Give up on being right all the time.
Consider other people’s perspectives. They’re entitled to their own opinions. Disagree with their ideas; attack arguments, not character. You don’t always have to one-up whoever you’re talking to. Take the time to listen. And then contribute what you have to say. You’re entitled to your own opinion, too.