6 Dating Mistakes You Need to Stop Making in Your Love Life

Stop Letting the Wrong People Into Your Life

One of the biggest relationship mistakes people make has less to do with what they do in a relationship, and more to do with who they choose to enter a relationship with.

We can spend so much time thinking about what we want in someone of the opposite sex without ever taking the time to think through what we don’t want—and what we won’t settle for. When it comes to finding love, there are some red flags that simply cannot be ignored for the prospect of a healthy relationship.

Think through the people you allowed into your life and ask yourself if they were the kind of people who built you up, or tore you down. Healthy relationships will always add more to your life than they take.

Don’t Allow Your Physical Relationship to Lead the Way

As Christians, it’s easy to get sick and tired of hearing the “waiting until marriage” rhetoric. But we’re not just talking about sex here.

When it comes to dating, it’s easy to allow the physical interactions of your relationship to take the lead before you know what happened. But time and time again, I hear from both married and unmarried couples alike about the harm that encompasses those who allow their physical relationship to lead the way.

There is certainly a time and place for physical affection in a dating relationship (learn more on that in Chapter 8 of True Love Dates). But letting the physical lead the way will always skew your judgment, heighten your emotions and fool your concept of commitment. When the physical attributes of your relationship take control, they have the power to ruin a relationship. That’s something worth avoiding as you strive for healthy relationships.

Stop Believing that You Are Worth Less

There is so much truth to the concept that you will always attract the kind of relationship you believe you deserve. Human beings are magnetic, and we tend to both attract and choose people who are similar to us in our level of emotional and spiritual health. In the end, we always attract the kind of relationship we think we’re worth.

Maybe part of the problems you’ve had in your past is that you didn’t believe you are worth more. Maybe you’ve allowed yourself to settle for relationships that you knew, deep down, were not for your good. As you move into this new year, take the time to consider what you are worth and how that plays into your relationship choices.

Don’t Avoid Talking to God About Your Relationships

It’s embarrassing how simple yet profound this statement is, especially when it comes to Christian dating advice. Why we don’t take the time to talk to the Almighty God of the Universe who knows all things and can make all things happen is simply mind-boggling to me.

He knows what’s best for our lives, and he knows what we need to get us there. Why not go to him for wisdom, for hope and for healing? Why not seek him with our questions, our pain and our problems? There are SO many different ways you can pray for your relationship – even one that doesn’t yet exist! If you’re interested in taking this a step further, check out my 21 Days to Pray for Your Love Life on just this topic. Because whether or not you’re even in a relationship- this one small act a day has the potential of changing your entire life.

Don’t Downplay the Importance of Boundaries

When it comes to Christian dating advice, many people talk a lot about the dangers of the physical in a dating relationship, but then don’t talk much about the emotional. Yet in my opinion, emotional intimacy can be just as damaging as physical intimacy if we’re not careful to proceed with caution.

As you approach 2020, maybe it’s time to take inventory of your emotional health and the boundaries you’ve put up to protect your heart. Getting too emotionally intimate too quickly has ruined many relationships, because your heart is precious, and something that needs to be handled with care.

Seek to set emotional boundaries in your life and protect your heart this coming year.

We’ve all made mistakes. But it’s most important that we learn from those mistakes, and then strive to never let them happen again.

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