1. You’re not her type
You are Mr. Handsome, Mr. Rich and, Mr. Perfect, a perfect package! Every girl crushes over you, except HER. It’s simple. You’re not her type.
Maybe she likes the bad boy types and you are soft and kind. Maybe she likes her men more macho, or less so and you are the other kind. Maybe she likes her men serious and you like to make the mood light-hearted?
Every girl has a type and there will certain types of boyfriend she will have. No matter how perfect you might be, she will not show any interest in you, because you don’t fit into her idea of a perfect man.
In such cases, whether you are crazy about her or not doesn’t matter, because she knows beforehand that it’s not going to work. So stop chasing her and move on.
2. Her texts are always formal
Whenever you text her, her answers will always be to the point. You won’t get a warm and friendly feeling from her messages. At times she may not even reply to your messages. It might be because she doesn’t want to lead you on for she feels nothing.
Remember most women are coded to give soft “nos” for either safety reasons, or out of respect because they expect you to be smart enough to connect the dots, do it. It is her way of saying that she isn’t interested in you.
You might keep pursuing her thinking that by doing so she will acknowledge your gestures and fall for you. Sorry to break your dream, but such gestures will only give her a creep and stalker alert! These are signs she wants you to back off.
Her texts are always formal
3. She is always busy
How many times has she told you that she is busy? You try to make plans to meet up or hang out but she always has an excuse. Even if you try to make plans according to her schedule, something comes up at the last moment.
Her explanation may seem genuine but you will get the feeling that you are just not important enough. You check her social media profiles only to see how much fun she has had at a friend’s party. She may have forgotten to mention that she was busy only for you.
Next time she cancels on you just wait for her to message or call or even send a Whatsapp forward, wait for some initiative from her and respond to that. Check if that message gets an immediate reply? If not, she is just too polite to say no to you upfront. Move on! You can read these signs to know if she is into you!
Remember if she cancels a meeting/date and doesn’t offer to re-schedule or offer excuses without follow ups, it is time to run in the other direction!
4. She wants an emotional relationship with you
An emotional relationship is a relationship between two people that only involves sharing of emotional baggage with one another. She ignores the fact that you like her and calls you only when she needs you.
Perhaps some girl in your group has been rude to her and she wants you to be on her side, maybe she wants your help with a project or maybe she is feeling bad about herself. She becomes needy and clingy when her life is a mess, you give her the attention and pampering she needs at that point to feel good about herself.
But as soon as her crisis is over, you again go to the backburner! She is using you as her rebound to get over her bad phases.
5. Her phone is more important than you are
She says you are her friend but when out with you she doesn’t leave her phone down at all. She answers all the calls, checks every forwarded message, maybe even makes unimportant calls just because… She doesn’t give you the basic attention even what a friend would deserve.
If you try calling her in the evening or after work hours her phone would always be busy. It could be because she is talking to someone she is interested in. You could just be a backup for her if things turn sour with the guy she likes.
6. She is still getting over a breakup
She is getting over a breakup
It takes longer for some people to get over a breakup, even if the past relationship was a short one. Such people are still battling their emotions and are not ready to get into another relationship. They also carry baggage which perhaps needs processing and they are hence lying low.
If she is not yet ready for a romantic relationship and you keep sending her signals she may find you insensitive, even if she likes the attention. She will definitely not think of you in any romantic way if she is not over her past boyfriend.
It is best to leave her alone as she may feel frustration or guilt over not being able to move on and always think of you as a part of her dark days. You should know when to stop trying with a girl and move on.
7. She is too nice to say no
Some people just don’t know how to handle a situation when a guy confesses his liking or love for them. She might initially say yes and even flirt with you a little but remember in your heart you will know if she is not into you. She will not be there like you are, not whole-heartedly for sure.
You will be able to sense that she is distant even if her words say otherwise. She might be too nice to say no (or is maybe a little confused if she thinks you will be good for her), but you should be smart enough to understand it.
Will you want someone half-hearted if you feel so intensely? This is a tricky one because while she may not be into you, she will not brush you off either. Plus she has no current relationship! Be smart read between the lines and know when you should stop pursuing her.
8. It’s not going anywhere
You have confessed your feelings to her, but she hasn’t given you any reaction. You ask her about it but she finds a way to neither say yes nor no. Your friendship is at a standstill.
You don’t know whether your relationship with her is moving forward or backward. It doesn’t seem negative or is there anything concrete. You are making yourself insane, trying to figure out what’s wrong with your conversations or what’s right.
And this not knowing can kill you from inside. But if you feel that the relationship is not going anywhere and it has been a while, you should stop pursuing the girl.
9. She creates an emotional barrier
She avoids any conversation where there is a chance of the two you talk about a deep relationship. What are her fears, what does she want from life? What are her expectations and her biggest weaknesses? What are yours?
Topics that involve her personal life or conflicts will be off-limits. Nor will she ask you questions to know you intimately. Take it as a sign that she wants to keep you away from her personal space and life because she doesn’t want you to be a part of it.
This is an absolute sign she wants you to leave her alone. Take the cue and don’t push too much. Stay friends if you want, but leave it there.
10. You are always introduced as a friend
Whenever the two of you go out and meet people, you are introduced as a friend. Her close friends may not have even heard about you. She considers you as a friend and may never become anything more than that.
Be prepared to be friend-zoned for life. Initially, you might think it to be okay, but eventually, you will blame her for wasting your time.
Let me ask you. Did she ever say that you could be anything more? No she didn’t. So get her point and stop pursuing her.
11. You are picking up the wrong signals
You are so lost in your fantasy that everything she does seems like a green signal to you. Even an accidental brushing of hands will make you think that she is doing it on purpose.
You think that every action of hers is a reaction to your feelings, but it is just you who is hyping everything. In such cases, it is better to confront her and ask her bluntly.
It is better to rip the Band-Aid off before things get too serious and you realise that you were wrong from the start. Here is a piece on signs which will tell you that she wants to be your girlfriend, read it and hope it helps.
12. She says ‘No’
Our life is not a Bollywood movie where a girl’s ‘no’ can be interpreted as a ‘yes’. When she says no, it doesn’t mean a yes or a maybe. It means no and you have to get that into your head.
You know that you need to back off. If she has any feelings for you, she will tell you to stay, but if she doesn’t, it’s time for you to move on, buddy.
We know that it is hard to admit to yourself that a girl you really like isn’t into you. But sometimes you just have to suck it up and say, “to hell with her, I’m going to find someone else”.
You might be missing signals from someone who likes you for someone who doesn’t. She is not the one putting her life at a standstill for you; you are doing it. Move on, live your life and the right person will come your way when the time is right.