1. You put him/her on a pedestal
You are so into this person that all their qualities seem heightened. They mean everything to you and you think you’re lucky to be with them. Hence, you idolise them. Love is when you go past this phase and come back to reality where you see the real person and accept them anyway.
Till then what you feel is a sign of infatuation. With infatuation, once the glass of ‘perfection’ shatters, you lose interest. After this, you can never look at this person with the same level of awe you used to. If you find this happening to you, it’s one of the signs you are infatuated.
2. You don’t feel like getting to know the person
Your infatuated self is so focused on spending more time admiring your so-called ‘lover’, that you don’t even want to get to know them.
You work your imagination and live in your own little fairy tale. You feel like you know this person because you have created the perfect version of them in your head that they might not be like at all!
However, you don’t want to ruin your flawless idea of them and get to know the real person. This is one of the clearest signs of infatuation.
Make sure these are signs of love not of lust
3. You become desperate
Desperation is one of the signs of infatuation. When you feel infatuated, everything is heightened and you want things to accelerate. You feel desperate to take things forward, even though you know that it’s going too fast.
Your desperation for your partner arises from the insecurity. You want to seize every moment because you know it’s going to get over soon.
When it’s love not infatuation you take one step at a time and don’t feel like rushing anything because you know you are together.
4. You always flirt
Your conversations can’t be called actual conversations because they are 80% flirting. Almost every conversation includes you both flirting and complimenting each other. It is as if there is nothing else to talk about. It’s an absolute sign of mutual infatuation.
Yes, it is healthy to flirt but only to an extent. What happens when one day you have to talk about things that are less exciting? You lose interest. You both don’t want to get out of this phase and into the real world and talk like normal people.
This is a sign of infatuation and a major difference when we look at infatuation vs love. When you’re in love with someone, you can find affection even in the most mundane conversations. You may be talking about laundry and still think “wow, I love this person so much“
5. It’s going too fast
It seems as if you are in a rush and can’t wait to take your relationship to the next level. You do not think about taking some time out and spending quality time together.
All you feel is this adrenaline within you at all times. You don’t even stop to think about what you actually want in your partner. You don’t want to think about facts or reason because that might make you realise that this is not the right person for you. You do not want to burst your bubble.
6. You are not yourself
When you are attracted to someone, you want to impress that person even if it means not being yourself. You don’t act like your normal self in front of that person. Instead, you portray yourself as a version of you that they would like. T
his can work in the short run but when it starts to feel like revealing your true self will threaten your relationship, it is a sign of infatuation.
7. Lust overpowers other emotions
Do you feel love or lust? What is the first feeling that you get when you see your partner?
Do you feel like staring him/her all day or feel like looking for a corner to make out? Infatuation makes you more sexually attracted to a person than wanting to spend quality time.
If you feel like the only things you want to do with your partner is are of sexual nature, it is one of the signs of infatuation.
Lust and attraction are not signs of love always, could be signs of infatuation too
8. You want everything to be perfect
When it comes to infatuation vs. love, what you want from the relationship counts. You want the perfect relationship with your other half, which is nothing short of a fantasy.
Nothing should ruin your relationship because you live in a sort of illusion. But the reality of the matter is that your feelings are so fragile that if you feel like something goes wrong, they will not last.
This is because you are in this relationship not for yourself but for show and are in it just because of the attractive perks it has to offer.
Overreaching for perfection at all times is one of the signs you are infatuated.
9. You seem to lose interest
It has not been long since your relationship started and you are already getting bored. The things you thought that you liked about the person are no more appealing to you.
Reality has come crashing down on you with all its force. Your partner is getting comfortable around you and portraying their true self and unfortunately, it is not what you expected.
10. You feel alone
There will be times when you will feel low and will want someone by your side. You look around and see your partner but don’t feel connected to them.
They aren’t your support system or your shoulder to cry on. You feel alone even though you are with someone. This is because you can’t rely on your partner in tough times because there is no understanding or love in your relationship.
11. You do whatever they tell you to
It will seem as if all your senses have stopped working but this is not a sign of love. You will not want to disappoint your partner and will do whatever they tell you to. Your brain is working towards a singular objective – impressing your partner.
You do not question their ways. If they are abusive, controlling and clingy it doesn’t register. Because you are so infatuated that you are looking the other way.
12. You are delusional
You think that you are in love, but in reality, it’s merely intense attraction and lust. These are nothing but signs of infatuation.
You don’t think straight. Infatuation just keeps making you dive deeper into your delusions, making you think of this perfect life and the perfect person that does not even exist. And you thought these are signs of love?