1. I wish I had never met you
This one sentence negates all the beautiful moments you spent with your partner in a flash. Suddenly, your partner will start wondering if all the times you spent together were meaningless, and believe us, that’s not a nice place to be in!
2. I hate you
“Hate” is a very very strong word and when you’re in love with someone, you cannot hate them, and that’s a fact. Using such strong words is only going to weaken your relationship and make your partner feel sad and insecure. When your spouse says hurtful things, it is possible that you will remember it for a long time and this is just not one of the phrases you ever want to recall.
Yes, you may be upset with them, you may dislike something they have done, but you don’t hate them as a person. Nobody wants to think their wife or husband hates them. A better thing to say would be “I hate how such-and-such thing you did makes me feel”.
I hate you
3. I’ll never trust you again
You mean everything to your partner because they know you have faith in them and when you say you will not trust them again, the will to stay in the relationship gets shaken. Don’t express your trust issues so blatantly to them. Tell them you have a hard time shaking off some feelings but don’t say it in such a brutal manner.
4. I wish I was with him/her instead of you
This is definitely one of the things not to say to your girlfriend or boyfriend or spouse. This can make your partner feel that you chose them as some kind of compromise and that you still wish you were with someone else. This can make them feel inadequate, unloved and can give rise to bitterness and resentment.
5. You’ve never made me happy
Come on, even you know that is absolutely not true! So all those times when you smiled at their little gestures and laughed at their jokes were a farce? No, you say? Well, that’s not what they’ll hear when you tell them they never made you happy.
6. I can’t stand it when you touch me!
Once these words are out of your mouth, after that (much after the storm is over) every time you two kiss or move to make love, it will raise a barrier in your partner’s mind. They will not be able to help but wonder if you really meant it. This is one of the things you should never say or it will make your partner conscious of themselves for a really long time and can even leave them grappling with low self-esteem. Not to mention the toll it can take on intimacy between you both.
7. I can’t stand looking at you!
Certainly, one of the things you should never say to your spouse, this will leave an indelible mark on them. You’ll invariably hurt your partner by conveying to them that their face reminds you of all the bad things between you two. They’ll wonder if when you smile at them, it’s fake.
I can’t stand looking at you!
8. I lied to you when…
It’s a natural instinct to want to say the meanest things when you’re angry at your partner because that’s also the time you’re hurting and you want to give it back. So sometimes you dredge up deceptions from the past just to throw it at them. But remember; once this mean confession is out of your mouth, you’ll NEVER be able to take it back.
Related Reading: How To Deal With A Lying Husband?
9. Any kind of abusive words
Using abusive language just drags you down to a very low level and doesn’t really accomplish anything except little darts of pain to the person in front of you. Try punching a pillow instead and add this to the list of things a husband should never say to his wife or anyone should say to their partner in a relationship.
10. Comments on physical attributes
That would really be a new low and you should definitely steer clear of such comments for these are things not to say to your girlfriend or boyfriend. Everyone has something about their body that makes them self-conscious. Since you two share an intimate connection, chances are you know each other’s Achilles’ heel. But using it as a weapon of hurt when you’re angry will only cause lifelong scars on the other’s psyche because they always thought you loved them despite those shortcomings. And the scars from such hurtful words rarely heal.
Remember, when you feel compelled to hurt in anger, it’s your mind playing tricks on you and you’re not yourself. This incites you to cross a boundary and say things you should never say. Later, no matter how much you say you didn’t mean it, it won’t matter, because it will sound like a cover-up. So, the better idea is to stew silently when you’re in a fit of rage and speak up only once the tide is low!